Tuesday, October 22, 2013

Things Every Marriage Needs

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Here's an insight of Belief Net's featured content about marriage and my thoughts too..

10 Things Every Marriage Needs from Belief Net:

1. Open Communication.

◄ Belief Net: Marriage is sometimes difficult - don't compound it by keeping secrets. Tell each other everything and your relationship will show the results.
◄ Personal Note: I completely agree to this. Open communication is very vital in every relationship. It feels good to be a speaker and a listener to your partner and vice versa. The fact that you could tell each other anything under the sun regardless if it's something important or sense less only means you're comfortable. Others may keep secrets on you but not you to each other. It is the key to be sensitive and be aware towards each other's point of views, stories and in sights. 

2. Team Work

◄ Belief Net: Working together is a part of any successful marriage. However you need to, carry the load equally.
◄ Personal Note: As they say it takes two to tango.. Any relationship won't be successful if there's only one working for it. It is a joined commitment. Together you fall, together you rise. 

3. Focus on Spirituality 

◄ Belief Net: Stay focused on what matters by praying, studying, and learning together.
◄ Personal Note: Let us not forget the BIG G above in every little thing we do. Marriage is a big leap. A very challenging stage. Engaging your relationship with HIM will make your outlook more positive that no matter how hard the storms you'll get through, HE's there to help and guide you.

4. The Same Goals 

◄ Belief Net: While you may have different interests, you need the same goals. Kids? Where you want to live? How much you want to travel? This is where you need to be on the same page.
◄ Personal Note: Precisely!  You have to be on the same page when it comes to plans and major decisions. Let us not forget, you're no longer one but BONDED AS ONE. Certainly, you need to hear each other's opinion but at the end of the day you need to come up with one mutual verdict. 

5. A Clean Home

◄ Belief Net: It is undeniable that having a nice place to spend your time will increase happiness and keep your relationship strong. Work together to keep your place nice and it will ease your stress!
◄ Personal Note: I believe that the ambiance of a house reflects who the couple is. If  your home is dis-organized, chances are you two fits the same trait. More of a come what may. But being clean and well coordinated goes along your relationship and perspective. Anyhow it's not a hard task. Do it together with fun and joy, surely you'll find it as a hobby and an asset.

6. Budgeting

◄ Belief Net: One of the biggest mistakes couples can make is not keeping up with their money. Budget together and keep the power out of just one person's hands, and money won't stress you out!
◄ Personal Note: It is connected to no. 1. If you have a smooth and open communication, there's no doubt monetary stuff will be an issue. You both can be the accountant and auditor. Feel free to let each other be mindful about your expenses, payable and daily income. Remember, both of you are part of the decision making and have the say about any matter in between.

7. Time Alone

◄ Belief Net: While it's always fun together, taking a little time alone can make your time together that much sweeter.
◄ Personal Note: There will still be few differences to consider so allow each other to have some time on their own. Respect and accept.

8. Sex

◄ Belief Net: Yeah, I wrote it. Physical intimacy is an important part of any marital relationship. Be on the same page about it, but always keep the passion alive.
◄ Personal Note: It may be true to some, but so long as you care at each other and the sweetness remains that's what truly matters. A simple kiss and hug is enough. It maybe not as intimate as it is, but it means so much that not a word is needed. It is suffice to be felt.

9. Others

◄ Belief Net: Having good friendships and good relationships with family is essential for a good marriage. They can give you fun times, good advice, and a lot to think about.
◄ Personal Note: Your love ones will always have a special portion in your heart. It is overwhelming that you could share your journey with them specially your family and you will be guided by their own stories and episodes of what had happen or may happen. They are your foundation. 

10.Love

◄ Belief Net: The most important ingredient in any marriage is simple - love. If you love each other selflessly everything else will fall into place.
◄ Personal Note: Save the best for last. Indeed, all of these won't be possible if there's no love. You don't wanna just say yes to a person just with the thought of getting married. Absolutely, the person you hold on to, the one who catches you, your security blanket, the one you could cry and laugh with, the one who untiringly tolerates you on your tantrums and just simply accepts you in anyway is what true love is all about.

















If all these are true to your eyes and what your heart desires, you know in your heart the real essence of marriage. If all else fails, your partner will always be the first and the last person you could think you have save to still  believe that life is perfect at least one aspect of it.

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